Tuesday, March 23, 2010

The Nature Of Love

1 John 4 - "Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and loves God."

I often wonder what it means to love. I throw the word around a lot. In fact, any friend of mine -- whether online or in person -- will usually hear it from me. It's my standard closing, along with "Take care!" and "God bless!" Sometimes I have been told that I say it too much; that if I say it to everyone, then I have watered it down, and it can't be truly believed.

I don't know if that's true. Surely there are some people who I prefer to hang out with more than others, simply due to common interests or personal styles. However, like I said in the "Unity" post, even those things shouldn't keep us apart as brothers and sisters in Christ. Okay, so I might not have much in common with a janitor or a fireman or a soccer mom, but if we all believe in Christ we are required -- in fact, commanded -- to love each other.

Does love just sit there like a stone? No. Love does things. It has to be made. To say that I, soon-to-be college graduate, loves the farmer or the janitor but I don't spend time with them or care for them, then have I really loved them? I'm not saying that we are required to get along perfectly with everyone. I think it's fine to admit when we are outside of our comfort zones. But what I think is important is to step outside of our comfort zones, to seek relationships with those who we would never talk to if not for the bond of Christ. I think this is the way the world will know we are his.


Nathan said...

Hey, Jay,

I've been meaning to comment for quite a while. I stumbled across your blog a few months ago, and read all your entries. Let me tell you that it was/is very encouraging to read about someone who's gay, Christian and celibate. Prior to reading your blog my primary exposure was to either "ex-gay" or "gay and living it" Christians. You seem to have found a healthy balance.

Anyway, like all your other posts, I enjoyed this one. . . it would be fantastic if you could blog more often :)

AJ said...

I just wanted to tell you I am new here and want you to know how much your blog has meant to me. A few days ago I somehow stumbled upon blogs of other christians who struggled with same sex attraction for the first time and I have really learned alot and been encouraged to know my struggles are not unique. I have read through a ton of your posts and they really have helped in my struggles. Anyways thanks and I will be back.

College Jay said...

Nathan: Thank you so much! And I'm trying to blog more, but life is busy.

AJ: Hey AJ! I'm glad to hear from you. Please feel free to come back or ask questions on older posts. I've been around awhile and I am not blogging about homosexuality as much, but I am always willing to support however I can.

south university said...

The L word is usually thrown out randomly. I don't. I say it when I really mean it. I really envy people who can say it easily especially to their parents who really deserve those words. I want to start a life full of love, kindness and sharing. But, it's really hard.